There comes a time in every new relationship where the magic wears off an we're left wondering how to get that bit of magic back. Because that little magic makes the mundane bearable and everything seems to run smoothly. No matter how little or how long it lasted, we always end up feeling like it wasn't enough time at all.
Without the magic, the honeymoon phase, or whatever it is that we choose to call it, we are left staring at the harsh reality, much like staring at your reflection under neon lights. That's the moment where we choose to work it out or cut our losses and get out of the game.
When we decide to stick it out for the sake of propriety, love, affection, curiosity, or what have you, we know that it's not necessarily going to be easier. We cling to the hope that this time it'll work out and that it'll be different.
What happens, then, when you see the patterns reemerging once again? Patterns that you thought you'd left in your previous relationship. If the person you're now with displays some of the same patterns as the old one, does this mean that the problem is you and not them? Are you the one bringing out this side of them?
Is this new relationship that showed so much promise destined to fail? Or can you manage these issues in a different way this time? What happens when the dust settles and the magic is gone?
Ok so I couldn't have found your blog at a better time. I also got the shaft on my wedding - three days before the date. It's been over a year since then and i completely relate to everything you say. It's like I wrote this. So thanks.
ReplyDeleteYou're very welcome (though I should be thanking you for reading, so THANK YOU). I'm glad you can find relatable things in the blog. I've begun to think that it's become a rite of passage for many of us out there.
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